How to Get Over Your Fear of Big Waves

First of all, some fear of big waves is healthy. We all know that bigger waves come with more power and hence higher risks. It’s being close to that risk and that danger that releases adrenaline and dopamine in your system, and it is a part of the reward cycle around surfing. I.e., why we love it in the first place. It’s when the size of the wave generates a fear response instead of just adrenaline and dopamine that it becomes uncomfortable and sometimes debilitating. And when that fear then occurs in a situation where your conscious mind know you are perfectly safe, it ruins the fun in surfing. This is the fear we want to get rid of. Not the one that is healthy and keeps us out of situations that are beyond our skill. A continued fear response when surfing will usually lead to avoidance of conditions that elicit the response and will ultimately keep you from freely enjoying surfing. Perhaps it might even put you off surfing altogether.

I am here to tell you that A you are not the only one who suffer from this, a lot of surfers do, and B it’s possible to get over it. Before I tell you how to get over it let me explain how and why this is happening. 

For everyone, or at least everyone I have met and worked with so far, it starts with one traumatic or a series of bad experiences in the water. For many it’s while surfing but it doesn’t have to be. It might not even have happened in the water. In this article I will stick to surf related scenarios but the process is much the same weather you are on a board or not.

From Fight or Flight to Fright

What has happened is that you have been in a situation that resulted in your nervous system getting overwhelmed. What I mean by this is that you have gone from being in a fight or flight mode to a fright mode. The fight or flight mode is still a functional state of your nervous system where more blood is pumping to your muscles, quicker breathing, release of blood sugar to provide energy for your muscles etc. This state is initiated by adrenaline being released into your bloodstream. This is all to make your body hyper alert and able to quickly act. The fright mode however is not very functional.

We go into fight or flight mode when our mind perceives a threat, but you might have been in the fight or flight mode even before anything adverse happened or you had any conscious awareness of any threat. Either because surfing is a physical and sometimes competitive sport that requires this of your body and/or it’s also a day with conditions, be it perhaps bigger waves or a shallow reef, which your subconscious perceives as a threat. Hence your body is releasing adrenaline into your bloodstream, and you are effectively in a fight or flight mode even if you consciously don’t feel threatened. So this effectively lowers the bar for you going into fright mode.

So you are out there surfing it’s exciting and you are physically asking a lot of your body. Then something happens that gives you a bit of a fright, which releases more adrenaline into your blood stream pushing the fight or flight mode into overdrive. This overwhelms your system and now you are in fright mode instead. The parasympathetic nervous system kicks in trying to calm down your racing heart etc. Physically you are in a “full gas pedal to the metal kind of mode” and at the same time you are also slamming the breaks. Psychologically you can no longer makes sense of your body’s signals, and you are experiencing intense fear or panic. Welcome to fright mode. The fright mode is characterized by an overwhelming fear to a degree of immobility and unresponsive muscles as well as the inability to think clearly and act decisively.

You can read more about this nervous system response also called “the fright cascade” in Schauer & Elbert’s research. (Schauer, M., & Elbert, T. (2010). Dissociation following traumatic stress. Journal of Psychology, 218, 109-127)

Having an experience like this where your nervous system has gotten overwhelmed will resulting in a subconscious programing that surfing and being in the water is not safe. The purpose of this programming is to make sure things like this doesn’t happen again. Because your subconscious is controlling a lot of your behaviors and what goes on in the body without your subconscious awareness a strong programing like this is very hard to override with your conscious mind. In other words, your subconscious is there looking out for you and any detection of a similarity to that previous situation will immediately set off that program and put you in fight or flight mode. Your subconscious is asking you to avoid this situation or fight it. Your subconscious is likely to recognize that the ocean is too big of a foe to fight and go with flight instead and this is when the discomfort and resistance towards surfing starts to creep in.

This all probably sounds very dramatic and if you don’t remember one singular more traumatic event that caused you to fear bigger waves (or something else you face while surfing), this might not resonate with you. However, a repeated exposure to “milder” events can have the same result. The result being having created a subconscious program that immediately run when surfing comes up or certain surfing conditions are present, creting a fear response.

The Solution

I think by now it’s clear what we need to do to get rid of this pesky problem. The how of it is the challenging part.

The subconscious learns through trauma and repetition, just as described above. We can’t create a positive trauma, so we are left with repetition. Meaning we need to go out and have repeated experiences of being safe and happy while surfing in the conditions that scare you in order to reprogram your subconscious. Easier said than done. If only there was an option where you could go into your subconscious to rewrite the initial programming as if it never happened. Lucky for us, there is. Hypnotherapy!

To learn more about hypnotherapy and see if it’s the right solution for you, book a free on-on-one consultation with me here.

However, hypnotherapy is not something you can do on your own so I will not go into it further here. Instead, I will continue to go through a few options that makes this process of rewriting your subconscious programing through conscious repetitions a little easier.

These are the top three methods I work with in my surf psychology program in order to overcome surf related fears such as fear of big waves.

1. Breathing

When you’re in fight or flight, as described above, your breathing becomes more quick and shallow only using the upper part of your lungs. To signal to your body that you are not scared you can adopt a breathing pattern that is closer to how you breath when your nervous system is calm and relaxed. The key thing to do is to breath deeply and engage your diaphragm. Also often referred to belly breathing. Make sure your outbreath is longer than your inbreath and pause between the in and the out. Doing this will help to engage your parasympathetic nervous system, the break, and get you out of fight or flight mode.

I recommend doing this for a solid five minutes as part of your warm up routine before getting in the water. You can also do it in between waves as a way to calm down while you are still out there.

2. A step by step approach and lot’s of self compassion

Take it slowly and approach your surfing with a clear plan and a step by step increase in challenging conditions. You won’t get over this problem in one session and you will only make it worse if you push too much. Take some time to clearly define your comfort zone. Define your triggers. This is anything that makes you a little nervous. Only work on one trigger at a time. In other words, don’t go to a new spot, in bigger conditions with a crowd on a new board and expect to have a good surf. Be proud of yourself for every time you go out no matter what. You will not get anywhere any faster by battling yourself at the same time as you are battling this fear.

3. Visualizations

 Another great way of reprogramming the subconscious is visualizations. A visualization is in many ways the same as going out there and having a positive experience. It will boost your repetition count and act as if you have been out there surfing your heart out ripping like a pro without any of the risks of it not turning out the way you planned. Your subconscious is more suggestive when you are very relaxed, particularly right before falling asleep. This is a great time to do some visualizations.

That’s it from me for now. I hope this will help you to be fully free and happy in your surfing. And as an extra nugget of information for you who made it all the way to the end. The issues that show up in your surfing are likely rooted in the same thing as other issues in your life. Meaning that any self-work you do will also be a good effort towards resolving anything that comes up in surf as well.